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\u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131ndan beklenen performans, bayramlarda sofralar d\u00fczmek, akrabalar\u0131 a\u011f\u0131rlamak, iyi yemek yapmak, geni\u015f ailenin bir araya getireni olmak, evin s\u00fcrekli tertemiz, d\u00fczenli tutmak, her daim bak\u0131ml\u0131 ve \u015f\u0131k olmakt\u0131r. Yani, m\u00fckemmelin de \u00f6tesinde bir insan t\u00fcr\u00fc olmal\u0131d\u0131r \u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131n! Madalyonun bir y\u00fcz\u00fc ev i\u00e7indeki performanssa, di\u011fer y\u00fcz\u00fc de cemaat i\u00e7inde aktif olmak, kad\u0131n kollar\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, orada da g\u00f6rev almakt\u0131r. Buralarda var olmak i\u00e7in yukar\u0131daki beklentileri kar\u015f\u0131lam\u0131\u015f olma \u00f6n \u015fart\u0131, s\u00f6ylenmeyen bir ger\u00e7ek olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda durur.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n TAL\u0130N SUC\u0130YAN<\/strong><\/p>\n Bir \u00f6nceki yaz\u0131mda \u0130stanbullu Ermeni olman\u0131n tarihsel \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fcklerinden bahsetmi\u015ftim. Bu yaz\u0131da, kad\u0131nlar a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u0130stanbullu Ermeni olman\u0131n ne demek oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015fmak istiyorum biraz.<\/p>\n Babam hep annemin misafirperver olmamas\u0131ndan, evimizin kendi baba evindeki gibi misafirlerle, aile \u00fcyeleriyle dolup ta\u015fmamas\u0131ndan, sofralar etraf\u0131nda bulu\u015fuyor olmamam\u0131zdan \u015fik\u00e2yet eder, bunu annemin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir kad\u0131n olmas\u0131na ba\u011flard\u0131 ve her f\u0131rsatta bunun kendisinde yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ho\u015fnutsuzlu\u011fu dile getirirdi.<\/p>\n \u015eimdi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum da, annem ger\u00e7ekten de, tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir\u00e7ok Ermeni kad\u0131n\u0131n aksine, isim g\u00fcnlerinde, bayramlarda, \u00f6zel g\u00fcnlerde yemekler d\u00fczenlemeyi sevmez, kom\u015fulara \u2013vefat\u0131na yak\u0131n bir iki denemesi hari\u00e7\u2013 kahveye gitmez, k\u00e2\u011f\u0131t oynamaz, arkada\u015f toplant\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131lda bir-iki ile s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 tutard\u0131. Yani babam\u0131n \u0130stanbullu ailesinin bu konudaki beklentilerinin hi\u00e7birini kar\u015f\u0131lamaz ve bundan rahats\u0131z olmaz, bayramlarda yap\u0131lmas\u0131 \u015fart olan yemekler silsilesinden kendi yapabildiklerini se\u00e7er, gerisini g\u00f6r\u00fcmcelerine b\u0131rak\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n Annem, annesine benzerdi. Annesi Erzurumluydu ve benim tan\u0131k oldu\u011fum d\u00f6nemde, anne taraf\u0131ndan akrabalar\u0131 varolu\u015f derdi i\u00e7indeydi. \u0130stanbullular\u0131n tersine, felaket \u00fczerine felaket ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f, hastal\u0131k, yokluk, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, \u00e7aresizlik g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015flerdi. Annemin kimseyi e\u011flendirecek hali yoktu. O ancak en yak\u0131nlar\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131 kendine g\u00f6rev edinmi\u015fti; onlar i\u00e7in elinden geleni yapt\u0131. Bir \u00e7ocukluk arkada\u015f\u0131m bana, annemin pazar g\u00fcnleri b\u00fct\u00fcn bir hafta i\u00e7in yemek pi\u015firmesinden, sistematik olarak \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131ndan \u00e7ok etkilendi\u011fini anlatm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Kendi annesi g\u00fcnl\u00fck olarak yemek yaparm\u0131\u015f; benim annemin, her \u015feyi \u00f6nceden planlayarak i\u015fini kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor olmas\u0131 akl\u0131nda kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131n. Bu haftal\u0131k yemek pi\u015firme prati\u011fini \u00e7ocukluk y\u0131llar\u0131mda hi\u00e7 sevmedi\u011fimi \u00e7ok iyi hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. Ama arkada\u015f\u0131m hakl\u0131yd\u0131, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir kad\u0131n olarak bundan ba\u015fka bir \u015fans\u0131 yoktu. Ayr\u0131ca, bizleri doyurduktan sonraki vaktini bol bol okuyarak, Ermenice t\u00fcm yay\u0131nlar\u0131 takip ederek ve arada \u00e7eviri yaparak ge\u00e7irirdi. Ancak kendisinden beklenen performanslar bunlar de\u011fildi.<\/p>\n \u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131ndan beklenen performans, bayramlarda sofralar d\u00fczmek, akrabalar\u0131 a\u011f\u0131rlamak, iyi yemek yapmak, geni\u015f ailenin bir araya getireni olmak, evin s\u00fcrekli tertemiz, d\u00fczenli tutmak, her daim bak\u0131ml\u0131 ve \u015f\u0131k olmakt\u0131r. Yani, m\u00fckemmelin de \u00f6tesinde bir insan t\u00fcr\u00fc olmal\u0131d\u0131r \u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131n! \u015eimdi bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda bunlardan baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n benim de \u00fcst\u00fcme yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, halalar\u0131m\u0131n bana canh\u0131ra\u015f \u015fekilde yemek yapmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretti\u011fini, \u00f6zellikle de annemin yapamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 yemekleri \u00f6\u011freterek, annemin olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hem \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan hem de \u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131n\u0131n ev kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131na halel getirmeyecek versiyonunu yeti\u015ftirmeyi ama\u00e7lad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rebiliyorum. Elbette, bunun k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015fey olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirsiniz ama m\u00fckemmeliyetin \u00e7\u0131tas\u0131n\u0131n s\u00fcrekli y\u00fckseltildi\u011fi, ba\u015fka bir deyi\u015fle s\u00fcrekli el art\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 da kesin.<\/p>\n Madalyonun bir y\u00fcz\u00fc ev i\u00e7indeki performanssa, di\u011fer y\u00fcz\u00fc de cemaat i\u00e7inde aktif olmak, kad\u0131n kollar\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, orada da g\u00f6rev almakt\u0131r. Buralarda var olmak i\u00e7in yukar\u0131daki beklentileri kar\u015f\u0131lam\u0131\u015f olma \u00f6n \u015fart\u0131, s\u00f6ylenmeyen bir ger\u00e7ek olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda durur. Yani hem evin i\u00e7inde t\u00fcm beklentiler kar\u015f\u0131lanacak, hem de evin d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki beklentilere yeti\u015filecektir. Evin i\u00e7indeki performans beklentileri kar\u015f\u0131lam\u0131yorsa, o zaman bu gruplara d\u00e2hil olmay\u0131 akl\u0131n\u0131zdan bile ge\u00e7iremezsiniz.<\/p>\n Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, \u2018\u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131n\u2019\u0131n bir t\u00fcr performatif idol yaratma projesi oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyebiliriz. Kendisi ya da i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ko\u015fullar \u00fczerine d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyen, gazete, kitap, Ermenice, T\u00fcrk\u00e7e herhangi bir dilde bir \u015fey okumas\u0131 gerekmeyen, entelekt\u00fcel bir faaliyette bulunmas\u0131 \u00f6ng\u00f6r\u00fclmemi\u015f ama her t\u00fcrl\u00fc entelekt\u00fcel, toplumsal faaliyetin mideden ge\u00e7ti\u011fine dair kesin bir \u00f6n kabul\u00fcn \u015fartlar\u0131n\u0131 yerine getiren, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, becerikli, her alanda aktif kad\u0131nlar…<\/p>\n T\u00fcm bunlar\u0131n nesi k\u00f6t\u00fc? Ula\u015f\u0131lamayacak olmas\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi… Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne s\u00fcrekli ula\u015famayacaklar\u0131 bir m\u00fckemmellik \u00e7\u0131tas\u0131 konmas\u0131, bu u\u011furda s\u00fcrekli olarak pasif agresif bir \u015fiddete maruz kalmalar\u0131 ama bunu i\u00e7selle\u015ftirdikleri i\u00e7in fark\u0131na bile varmadan, kurulu saat gibi t\u0131k\u0131r t\u0131k\u0131r \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi k\u00f6t\u00fc de\u011fil. Kendi kendilerine kald\u0131klar\u0131nda m\u00fcthi\u015f rahats\u0131z olmalar\u0131, kendilerinden \u00e7ok ba\u015fkalar\u0131 i\u00e7in ya\u015famalar\u0131, \u201cNe yapmay\u0131 seversin, ne yapmak istersin?\u201d sorusuna cevap veremiyor olmalar\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi k\u00f6t\u00fc de\u011fil. \u00d6zellikle 1915\u2019te sa\u011f kurtulan ailelerden gelen kad\u0131nlar\u0131n, b\u00fct\u00fcn ailelerinin travmalar\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcklenip, \u0130stanbul\u2019da var olabilme \u00e7abas\u0131 i\u00e7inde, \u00fcstelik s\u00fcrekli k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsenerek, t\u00fcm zorluklara g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcs gerdiklerinin fark\u0131nda bile olunmamas\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi k\u00f6t\u00fc de\u011fil.<\/p>\n https:\/\/www.agos.com.tr\/tr\/yazi\/32033\/bir-performatif-idol-olarak-istanbullu-ermeni-kadin\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131ndan beklenen performans, bayramlarda sofralar d\u00fczmek, akrabalar\u0131 a\u011f\u0131rlamak, iyi yemek yapmak, geni\u015f ailenin bir araya getireni olmak, evin s\u00fcrekli tertemiz, d\u00fczenli tutmak, her daim bak\u0131ml\u0131 ve \u015f\u0131k olmakt\u0131r. Yani, m\u00fckemmelin de \u00f6tesinde bir insan t\u00fcr\u00fc olmal\u0131d\u0131r \u0130stanbullu Ermeni kad\u0131n! Madalyonun bir y\u00fcz\u00fc ev i\u00e7indeki performanssa, di\u011fer y\u00fcz\u00fc de cemaat i\u00e7inde aktif olmak, kad\u0131n […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":82557,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,34,70],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82556","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-haberler","category-istanbul","category-makaleler"],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\u00c7izim:](\"https:\/\/admin.agos.com.tr\/Upload\/Agos\/Images\/tamar%20gurciyan%20ermeni%20kadini.JPG\")
<\/div>\n\u00c7izim: Tamar G\u00fcrciyan<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n